Good Things DO Come to Those Who Wait

After the crushing blow to my Lady Mojo a few weeks ago, I was really unsure of where I stood with Fred. He was still flirty, but I honestly doubted if he might have feelings for me. And by feelings, I mean ones of the "big kiss at the end of the movie" variety. We found ourselves in a somewhat familiar situation as before, after drinking with friends at a party and there were friends sleeping all over the place.

We stayed up talking until about 5am. He went to sleep on the couch. But, he left his phone in my room. I was about to pass the phone off when he knocked on the door to pick it up. He didn't want the phone to wake me up in the morning. He said he was falling off of the couch. I invited him to stay in my bed if he thought it would be more comfortable. He agreed. We laid there talking for a while.

And then HE KISSED ME! And the next day he wasn't all weird. I was mildly concerned it might have been a drunk impulse from him, but he said he was almost completely sober at the time and he knew what he was doing!

PRAISE THE LORD!!!

COMMENTARY: 17's guide to texting boys

Like pickup lines, texts can crush a blossoming relationship. So I turned to a teen magazine for some advice to hook a boy:

The worst:
I think you're suffering from a lack of vitamin "me" ☺
- Could a girl sending this seem more desperate?

It's 10:10! Time to make a wish
- Are you texting a girl? An 11-year old girl? Guys don't respond well to this kind of stuff.

Uh oh, I think my <3 went missing. Did you steal it?
- His likely answer: No. Cray cray girl alert!

Let's refer to Anshton Kitcher's December article about texting killing romance. Ironically written by a guy who tweets 100 times a day, he makes a good point. Affection is truly better expressed through speech, or hey maybe a nice letter. There's a reason they're called "love letters." 160 characters cannot express enough.

The Word of Britney

BOYS: Can't live with them can't live without them.

Real Men Sing About Their Love

The Spice Girls empowered us with the relationship-starting anthem, "Wannabe." So we expect the men folk to get it together. Here are 6 men that make it blatantly clear in their music they want to be your man.

6. Love Soon ~ John Mayer
chorus:
so come and face it
You can cross the line whenever you want to
I'm calling it love soon
close your mind and waste some time if you have to
I'm calling it love soon
it's not about you now
it's what we are

5. I'm Yours ~ Jason Mraz
chorus:
I won't hesitate no more, no more,
It cannot wait, I'm sure.
There's no need to complicate,
Our time is short,
This is our fate,
I'm yours.

4. I'm Your Man ~ Michael Buble
chorus:
And I'd fall at your feet,
And I'd howl at your beauty,
Like a dog in heat.
And I'd claw at your heart,
And I'd tear at your sheet,
I'd say please, please,
I'm your man.

3. Our Story ~ Ryan Cabrera
chorus:
Its a good day for me,
Its a good day,
To take a chance and let you in to see,
Exactly who I am,
and if you understand me,

And if you can roll with it,
I will be your man.

2. Your Man ~ Josh Turner
chorus:
Baby lock the door and turn the lights down low,
Put some music on that's soft and slow,
Baby we ain't got no place to go.
I hope you understand.

I've been thinking 'bout this all day long,
Never felt a feeling quite this strong,
I can't believe how much it turns me on,
Just to be your man.

1. I'll Be Your Man ~ James Blunt
chorus:
Slide over here let your hands feel the way,
There’s no better method to communicate.
Girl stop your talking words just get in the way,
I’ll be your man.

So baby come over from the end of the sofa.
I’ll be your man, I’ll be your man!

Surprise: Boys DO Care About Valentine's Day

Leave it to us to find the two most maladjusted guys....

Comments about Valentine's Day included:
"Wah I'm Alone."
"In case you didn't know, I don't have a valentine."
"At least I can get free candy tomorrow."
"So on Valentine's Day everyone makes a pic of them and their significant other kissing. Happy Valent.....eh I'm over it."
"Even my mom has a date."
"Happy singles awareness day."
"First valentine's day alone in 7 years."
"Don't send me a card. Cards are overrated."

Might I suggest they take a chill pill and clean up their mascara? Too harsh?
But like sour patch kids, they're sour, then sweet. And we still want them? But do they want us? To be continued???

When I Get You Alone???

Let's suppose for a minute you meet a guy through mutual friends, several years ago. You continue to meet over the years. You went to college together, but you weren't friends then. But now you are. Very good friends. Before you can count, you have fallen for him. Hard. You talk about everything- except what this is. You feel like you're in a relationship with Fred^, but are you?

Here are the positive signs:
- He's flirty.
- He asks specific details about your day.
- He tells you about his day.
- He watches tv at the same time as you and discusses it.
- He sends you music you might like.
- He plays his guitar for you.
- He says he does not think you are a flake.
- He tells you about his past relationships.
- He texts absurd movie quotes. That you understand.
- He talks about his friends with you. Honestly.
- He makes some awkward conversation about not liking John Mayer, and then says "Well I have a live album and it's not too bad." (which you can live with)
- He invites you to hang out.
- He invites you to crash at his house when you are out late.

You agree to said invitation, after all it is late, and the friend you were supposed to stay with seems to have gone to sleep for the night. Then you get offered the futon. Then he says there's room in his bed. And you sleep. All you do is SLEEP.

And you don't know where you are now....... possibly more confused than before.


^Names have been changed to protect the confused.

Silly Love Songs: What GLEE Taught Me About Valentine's Day

When I was watching this week's Valentines Day GLEE Episode (where all of the characters are running around trying to get with someone for Valentine's Day or show their love to their other half), I realized something crucial.

Here is another shocking case of everything we were brought up to believe about relationships as kids has changed. In elementary school and middle school, we're all about giving out valentines, sending candy grams, and showing our friends, classmates, and crushes how much we like them. Keep in mind I always had the coolest Valentines from Looney Tunes and Power Rangers to 98 degrees and Grey's Anatomy. This pattern continues on through high school, and maybe even college, as we try so hard to get it known that we love someone and we want that love returned. Now in college, its easy to drink too much and run off with a lonely person sitting next to you.

But suddenly, school is gone, and the rules have flipped around. The last thing you want to do is start something around Valentine's Day. It's too much pressure, it sends the wrong message too soon, and the only things you can see are romantic comedies about people in your exact situation or bloody horror films. You end up like Topher Grace and Anne Hathaway in Valentine's Day, attending a 4-course lover's meal on your first date.

Is it too much to ask for a happy medium?

Minute To Win It

Or how to meet a guy or spectacularly blow it in under 5 minutes!

The Game: Bar Truth or Dare

The Premise: Really? Have you never played Truth or Dare? The catch: all single people get dares involving people of the opposite sex.

How To Play Awesomely: Dare to buy jager bombs for guy and his friends. Chose a guy who shares interest with you. Dates ensue, followed by adorably sweet relationship. (This is a true story. One of the cutest couples I know!)

How To Spectacularly Fail: Dare person to buy guy a drink. Give cute guy drink. Drink drinks. Have him buy you a drink back. Chicken out before asking him for his number. Call guy friend to ask for advice on asking a guy for his number. Discover guy has left bar before you become less of a chicken.

How To REALLY Spectacularly Fail: Dare person to interrupt game of darts. Successfully interupt game of darts. Flirt and talk with guys. Actually leave number with guy. Talk to friends and discover someone actually knows guy, and that he's married with baby.

Worth Playing? Despite the 1/3 success ratio, the success of the one totally outweighs the two losses. And if all else fails, you have some amazingly awesome embarrassing stories.

Middle School Dating

Remember in middle school when someone liked someone else, and all their friends tried to push the couple together?

Here's a little ancedote.
Fifth grade: my best guy friend Tommy^ and one of my best girl friends, Gina^, liked each other. I, naturally as a born romantic, asissted in getting them together. Gina sometimes came over to my house so Tommy (who lived next door) could come hang out with us. They were cute. They dated on and off until 9th grade. Now sadly I can tell you they didn't stay together forever. But they did remian friends in high school. Gina is actually getting married to another guy.

Now flash forward to your twenties.
Here's the shocker. NOTHING has changed. Dating is like middle school all over again. There's still the endless messages and endless analyzing of those messages with your friends, although its gone from ims to ims and texts now. Plus since the invention of Facebook and Twitter and all those other social networking things, you can now torture yourself with analyzing wall posts, status updates, and messages from another girl who may or not be "just a friend."

Then comes the in-person meetings.
It starts with a group event. It's always a group event. You orchestrate a whole big thing, forcing friends to come "in case it gets awkward" and so you can show off your breezy personality in a warm and supportive setting. Then your friends (who are all in on it) decide to take the situation into the own heands with one mission- get you two together. It's the subtleties- "Oh Gina likes dogs too. You two should discuss dogs (wink)." Then it moves to "Why don't you sit next to Tommy, I need to sit on the small single chair because my back hurts." But you appreciate it, love it, and are relieved that now you're sitting next to the person of your affections.

Now sadly I can tell you Gina and Tommy didn't stay together forever. But they did remain friends in high school. Gina is actually getting married to another guy soon.

^Names have been changed.